Friday, June 5, 2009














On most days when I'm not at work, you'll find me at home in the backyard, working in the garden. Pictured above are the snap peas and broccoli. Our youngest child has a wheelbarrow and set of tools which keep him happy. He's got a pile of sand and soil of which he is fully in charge. He helps me water and mulch, and will gladly transport piles of weeds onto the compost. Even in the heat of the day, he stays focused on the task. When he's tired, he stops working and lets me know he's ready to go inside. I try and follow his lead. These are very special times that we share together.

This week there was an incredible thunder and wind storm. The power was out, and dinner had been served hours before. I was ready to be relieved of any domestic chores, so I decided to go out for a run. Our second child was adamant about joining me.

"Not today. I want to go by myself."
"Mom, I want to go with you. Please, please Mom!"
"Sometimes I say yes and sometimes I say no. Right now the answer's no."

He runs away as I lace up my shoes. By the time I am finished putting my hair up in a ponytail, he returns, holding his thickest pair of winter socks. He proceeds to put them on, pulling them up as high as they can go.

"OK, come on, we'll go together."
"Yeah!! Thanks Mom."

Children are so easily pleased. We drive to a nearby trail, and the second we close the car door he's off and running. I follow his lead, and let him set the pace. When he's tired, he walks, and I run ahead and then back, so that we're always in sight of each other. Half-way through he asks if he can take off his shirt.

"Sure."
"Yeah, I saw two other people running with their shirts off."
"Well, it's pretty hot."
"Hey Mom, if you're sweaty, you can use my shirt to wipe your forehead."
"Thanks. Can I use it right now?"
"Yeah."

He's a very considerate person. We had a wonderful time, and we've got plans to run together once a week. Next week he says he wants to have a race.

Our daughter has been busy, with end of the school year projects and tests. Last week we finally caught up for some laughter and conversation.

"So, what are you reading now?"
"The Percy Jackson series. Oh Mom, the 5th one came out last week. Can we go to Borders soon?"
"Let's go tomorrow after breakfast."
"Oh, cool, thanks."

She's old enough now to buy these things with her own money. The next day she spends all afternoon reading on the couch. I admire the way she works hard at school, and then sets out to relax on the weekend. She's meeting her own needs. She was one of twelve students (out of 56 who applied) chosen to be an ambassador for her school. Reading that letter of acceptance was a moment for me to step back and realize that her school community recognizes her for the wonderful individual whom she is. I am happy for her, and humbled by her wisdom and grace.

It is really helpful for me to recognize how easy it can be to be a positive, loving presence in my family's life. They are continual reminders of the never ending present moment, otherwise known as 'life'.

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